last night i sat, alone, in the woods. okay fine, it was a wedding in the woods & yes there were other guests at that point, but i was in a remote spot thinking. i attend most major celebrations alone & this wedding was no exception from that perspective, but oh how different it was.
i have known saxon since he was about 7 years old. he & his mum lived above mck & i at a point when tami & i were both single mums. the kids got a long swimmingly despite their slight age difference. then life moved on for both families & we lost touch for a minute. enter facebook & my world was alright once more.
watching saxon grow into the fine, talented, creative young man he is today, from the facebook sidelines was a blessing, especially with joe’s arrival. you could tell immediately their connection even from the minimal access via the internet. you should see their proposal videos…yes both videos. they are adorable so watch them here if you have a few minutes...
fast forward to last evening, in the woods, with people from all over the world gathering to celebrate the marriage of saxon & joe. it was different for me as it was my first gay wedding. i was unsure what to expect, but it exceeded my expectations in every way.
i plan events of all kinds & have been involved in many weddings, but this was phenomenal. let me share many of the details & photos with you here:
the moments shared at the ceremony regarding these young men as individuals & as well as a couple were spectacular. the well-spoken officiant (who happen to be one of their best girl friends) spoke of each young man’s personal highlights, saxon being the creative, risk taker & joe being a man of faith & adventure. then the siblings reading a poem by walt whitman & a best friend describing a journey of faith & sexuality was most heartfelt. the vows were genuine & deeply felt. all of this intertwined with bits of humor counter act the amount of moisture present, both weather related & tears, lots of happy tears.
i could go on & on about the décor details from the draped wedding arch lovely with white rose & hydrangeas & two wooden columns; the hand-painted signs along the walkway to the reception with expressions & quotes of love; the table assignments - movie titles scripts as cover for the love story synopsis & a brief description of each attendee; the bourbon/whiskey bar hosting as many as 8 different brands, but especially two local ones; the loveless biscuit & jam table; the signature cocktail stops & the cakes. oh the cakes! one chocolate ganache & one caramel, i can’t even. plus there was even a geo-tag for snapchat photos!!
the human love factor was overwhelming: the two young boys in their shorts & bow ties playing by the koi pond; guests greeting & hugging one another with cocktails in hand; the sharing of kind & loving toasts by friends; the dances with family, especially the flower girls endlessly twirling for hours; the gobo lighting in the magnificent white tent; saxon & tami recorded an original song which played during their mother & son dance; and back to the whiskey bar area which was now lit with strands of white bulbs making it one hell of a romantic spot.
i told saxon last night i dreamed of this day, so many years ago. i knew back then the right man would come into his life & we would celebrate it in such a wonderfully, magical way. he looked curiously at me & said, “you did?” i believe i truly did.
as i departed the farm, carrying my gorgeous wedding gift of a thai parasol, i glanced back to see the glowing white tent, with an incredibly crowded dance floor filled with the happiest of humans in all the land, bouncing wildly. it filled my heart with joy, remembering what it is to be that young & happy once more.
last evening as i sat alone in the woods, in a crowd & thank god i did. i began questioning many parts of my life: why my work was disappearing; why inspiration had escaped; and mostly why love had abandoned me on so many levels. i remembered to be in the moment, to breathe & most of all to be grateful.
sometimes, in hindsight, these are the small, still moments when you receive answers to even your toughest questions. not only was love present in such a magnificent way last evening, i may have booked some work & was no longer afraid of being alone. (alright, perhaps the no longer be afraid moment may have actually occurred this morning, after a good night’s sleep).
as always, i wish you…peace, love & gratitude